How To Keep Strong During A Difficult Chapter In Life

Remember when we were thirteen and we wanted to be adults so badly it hurt? Little did we know we would have so many obstacles to encounter, especially in our twenties. Unfortunately it's just the circle of life and these chapters are unavoidable, in the end we learn that you need to gloom in order to bloom. Last year and the year before we had experienced first hand the most difficult chapters in our lives, and I thought I would encourage my readers who are experiencing a difficult chapter as well. 

As we all know life is not full of rainbows and happy sunshine. Life is actually the most beautiful train wreck, full of amazing moments with a mix of the most discouraging low points. In the end these good and bad moments mold us into even more beautiful human beings. The most comforting thing I figured out is that everyone goes through this! If we only knew the lessons we've learned through out these difficult chapters could potentially help build and mold others that may be going through the same thing in their lives. These are 5 points I have brought to the table that helped me immensely through my difficult chapter. 

1. Remind yourself it's just a Chapter

This is the hardest part, I felt like I could never catch a break. I am the type of personality that likes to keep everyone and everything all good in the neighborhood. I mostly keep all my emotions and problems locked up in my brain. So when the tiniest event ever happens it would've been the straw that broke the camels back, because I never vented or expressed my emotions about my situation was at that moment in time. Like May 2017 I was on my way to work in LA traffic and I had one of the worst anxiety attacks I've had in my life and CHP had to literally stop traffic to get me off the road. Mind you this was during rush-hour traffic and I did nothing to make it any better. I never reminded myself that it was just a chapter and there was light at the end of the tunnel. To this day when something crappy crawls into my life I stop and ask, how can I bloom from this? 

2. Reach Out for Help 

Whether it be your parents, counselor, or a friend, talk about your issues. You never know who is going through or has gone through the same issues you have endured. Going through a rough chapter alone can be one of the hardest things. Getting love and support from others makes a huge difference. 

3. Positive Thoughts are the Key To a Positive Life

Dark and negative thoughts equals a negative outlook on life. Try your hardest not to complain or mention toxic comments about the situation out loud it makes your situation more difficult. I know it's hard to just automatically change the way you speak and think, but just try saying one positive thing that's going on in your life a day and watch how contagious it can be to yourself and others. Positive thoughts equal a happy and healthy life. 

4. Self-care (Emotionally, Spiritually and Physically) 

Make sure you ALWAYS love and take care of yourself. Feed your body healthy foods, exercise, pray, meditate, take a hot bath.....Anything that will ease your mind. Make sure to invest time and energy into yourself. It is not selfish by any means to put your mental, physical, spiritual health before others when your going through a difficult time. Your friends and loved ones will understand!

5. Learn From Your Chapter

Everything happens for a reason. Like I said you have to gloom in order to bloom. Whatever chapter you are going through create a meaning out of it. How can this lesson you have learned help others around you? My family, my health and my happiness were my main focus on getting out of the situations we went through. The steps we took to get to where we are today, and the strong individuals that we have become, are things that I wouldn't trade that difficult chapter of life or the experiences it brought for the world. I am proud of my battle scars and you all should be proud of yours too. 

I really hope this post helped those who are going through a difficult time in their lives. So just keep these 5 points in your back pocket for when shit hits the fan. I call this my life manual, it's not perfect but it has helped me get through a lot of difficult situations that I have experienced. 

Positive Vibes from me to you!

XOXO Daniele